The Art of Loving Yourself!


How difficult can it be to love yourself? I mean aren’t we all suppose to love ourselves unconditionally? Or does it sound a bit selfish to love yourself before loving others?

Today however, I am talking about a positive body image and loving the way you look, loving your body the way it is.

This post was due yesterday but I have recently started a new work out routine and that is keeping me really tired. I could barely keep my eyes open yesterday after my cardio session to type the post. I thought it would be worth mentioning about my work out session because that is helping me a lot in maintaining a positive body image, exactly what this post is all about today.

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You might be wondering why am I killing myself trying a new work out session when I actually feel we should love ourselves the way we are. Well, that is actually the tricky part that prompted me to share my thoughts about this whole concept of positive body image without meaning to hurt or offend anyone reading this post.

I love myself and there isn’t anything that I would like to change about myself as far as appearance goes.

Yes, I do put on some make up and I work out because I feel good when I look good, but I don’t have the perfect body or the perfect features and I am never going to brood over what I don’t have. I would love to enhance what I have and ignore what I don’t because that is the best I can do.

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I have always been towards the skinnier side. Though that might make me appear quite lucky but trust me it wasn’t all that great. When I was growing up, I always had these weird adults giving me advice to put on weight so I look ‘healthy’. I was definitely a healthy child and there was nothing wrong with my physical health ever. But ‘apparently’ I looked unhealthy and weak and I was supposed to eat a lot just to please people that never mattered to me in my life.

So, being skinny as a child and as a teenager was more of a stress to me than a blessing!

However, I do have a supportive family and my father always encouraged me to eat healthy and engage in some kind of outdoor physical activity to stay fit and never quite bothered me with putting on weight.

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Today I exercise because I feel so energetic and fit after a good work out session. I eat healthy and nah, I don’t kill myself to look a certain way. I do whatever I can within my limitations to live a healthy and active lifestyle and that’s about it. With every passing year I am getting more confident about my body and honestly, blogging has helped me a lot in being so. I see a lot of bloggers embracing themselves the way they are and talking about their weaknesses and it’s inspiring to read such articles. Of course we all have weaknesses and they make us real!

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So, over the years I feel I have somewhat mastered the art of loving myself and this has definitely increased my happiness quotient! Since the Valentine’s month is still on, I would very much concentrate loving myself and maintaining a positive self and body image as much as I love my near and dear ones.

People who love themselves can be great lovers in return!

8 Responses
  • Trayee
    February 17, 2017

    Beautiful Presentation dear… i like your last line much…It’s very true..

    • Sarmistha Goswami
      February 17, 2017

      Thank you babe! 🙂

  • makeupplus50
    February 19, 2017

    Wonderful message.

    • Sarmistha Goswami
      February 19, 2017

      Thank you!

  • Jelly
    February 19, 2017

    I know how u felt growing up. Being half Japanese I’ve been always small frame, but until I hit 30’s I was like 100 to 110lbs. In the past 3 years I’ve been struggling to put some weight on not for to please people but just because I wasn’t feeling happy. Last August I went to fight my first tournament and I was way under the weight, so I decide put some weight on and I got from 112 to 126lbs and now I’m between 120 to 125 which is good for me and I feel happy. I love the mind results after cardio. You get relaxed and while u do cardio u get inspired and motivated. You look gorgeous the way you are. ❤️ Jelly.

  • Abby Strangward
    February 21, 2017

    Thank you for this! Really inspiring xo Abby |

  • soniakamran
    February 26, 2017

    Amazing blog! Can we repost your blog on our online lifestyle and fashion magazine?

  • Liz
    March 8, 2017

    I have written two posts on positive body image referring to the fuller figure; but I remember my little sister having a similar experience to yours. She was a slight teenager, called names. I was a plus sized teenager, told I looked like someone’s mother. Pain makes us stronger. Women suffer a load of predictions for a happy future life based on how they look. I have lived long enough to know that how you look, has no baring on future happiness. Dealing with BS with head held high is significant. So continue to strut your stuff and ignore the noise; cause that’s all it is. Check out: and

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